First of all Congratulations for being interested in starting your own business! Way to go!!
It is so impressive and inspiring that you are embarking (pun not intended) on this great endeavor. You should be proud of yourself. It is my honor and privilege to share my ideas with you and contribute to your success. As you begin, it can be very easy to let all the work and excitement overwhelm you and even take over the other areas of your life. It doesn’t have to be that way. There are simple and effective ways to maintain balance in your life, so that all of the important areas get your focused attention, to create lasting connections with your family, those that matter most to you AND start your new business!! The key here is finding balance, and below I reveal my secrets to achieving it!!
1. Make YOU a priority – It is too easy these days to put others first and our own desires and goals on the back burner. It is more important than ever to carve out time for yourself, especially with all of the distractions in front of us that steal our time away from what really matters to us. By eliminating the distractions and keeping them under control, we will have more time to accomplish and concentrate on our goals, and the other things that are important to us.
A. Limit the amount of time spent on the computer, especially on social media. Try to make it a habit to limit the frequency with which you check your email to two or three times a day. Try to respond to them in a timely manner, because emails are easier to handle in smaller chunks. It’s when there are a great number of them that we start to feel overwhelmed. If it is too hard for you to work by your computer and not check your social sites, then walk away and work in another room when you can. This will make it easier to reply in a timely manner.
2. Manage your time AND your priorities. We hear a lot about the importance of time management; handling paper only once, responding to all correspondence at first read and having a system for distributing and handling mail. These are valuable ideas, though there is another piece that is even more important and that is managing your priorities. When making choices in how we spend our time it is helpful to have a clear perspective of what our priorities are, and then make your choices from there. For instance, if making money or finding a job is your priority, then be sure to keep that in mind when making decisions.
A. Learn the art of saying NO. Too often we say yes to things that we really don’t want to do because we’re afraid to say no or because we want to avoid conflict. When we are asked to do something, we think that we need to agree, and then get down on ourselves later because we did not spend the time on our own goals or priorities. Take a few minutes to think about any requests made of your time in order to check in with yourself and your priorities to make sure they are all in alignment.
3. Add structure and routine – Having structure in our day reduces stress, adds continuity and clarifies our expectations for the day ahead. This includes having clear and simple goals that are doable and then adding structure to them. When our priorities and goals are in our schedule, whether it is daily, weekly, monthly, yearly or all of the above, we are more likely to keep them. Writing them down seems to solidify them for us, and helps confirm our commitment to them. If it is important enough you will find the time.
A. Have specific boundaries around how you spend your time. For your new business, have office hours and business development days and then stick to them. Have certain times when you won’t receive personal phone calls. There is nothing wrong with letting your calls go in to voicemail as long as you return the calls in a timely manner. The amount of time that one simple practice can save you can be significant. The best way to do this is to use a calendar, one that has a monthly view and a daily break down.
4. Quality time and quality activities – be sure to spend quality time alone, with your kids and with your spouse. That means you are not distracted by work or anything else. You are focused on the people you are with, and listening well to them. It means no multi tasking because one is never fully attentive on any one thing and it makes us feel as though we have too much to do and get nothing done. Most importantly it makes us feel isolated and disconnected from one another. It is important to choose quality activities to do with people we love. Quality activities are those that are important and of interest to others for this is how we learn what our loved one’s value, are interested in and enjoy. Take turns choosing the event, especially with children who feel more valued when given this opportunity.
A. Quality time alone doing anything that really makes you happy and energizes you. So much of work is about taking care of the needs of others and in order to do that we need to make sure that we are taking care of and doing for ourselves too. I think about the instructions passengers receive on an airplane before taking off, “in case of emergency an oxygen mask will drop down, place it over your mouth and nose…, if you are travelling with small children place your mask on first!!” Take some time to figure out what really makes you feel full, cared for and energized.
5. Create Connections. The best way to create connections is to improve communication with those who matter most to us. This means to resist the temptation to be critical of others, to take the time to really listen to them and to be genuinely interested in what they have to say. The amount of work it takes to be successful can be stressful and stress can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnect.
A. Set limits on the use of cell phones and computers. While they serve a definite purpose and advantage, they can put a strain on our relationships. So, set aside time during the day for no cell phones, and let your voicemail answer incoming calls. Engage in conversation where you are genuinely interested in the other person. Try as best you can not to rush in and fix a situation. It is very beneficial to let everyone involved try to work things out for themselves.
Contact me today for more information and to see how I can help you create more balance in your life and lasting connections with your family, at my website http://www.Findingyourwaycoach.com .
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